Fuck unconditional love.
You can’t do it.
It’s an impossible goal
that makes you violent inside.
But you can
your imperfect attempts to love,
your conditional search for love,
your failure to reach the ideal,
your sorrow, your fear,
your exquisite shame,
your ecstasy and your agony,
your inherited ideas of love,
your messy, deeply conditioned human love,
Remember, even your failure to love
is welcome here,
And that is the true meaning
of unconditional love.
We don’t like some human beings because they reflect
something we don’t like inside ourselves.
We think it is in the other, but actually
we carry this trait ourselves.
Now, if you were empty of this trait,
that you don’t like, you wouldn’t judge it.
When you are free of that judgement,
the trait ceases to appear, even external to you.
You don’t see it, or at least you look towards it
with great compassion and understanding,
because you know it’s not intentional.
We are not really ignorant by choice.
It seems like something is hiding the real seeing.
So when you meet someone whose presence
triggers discomfort within yourself,
often it is because there is something there
within you worth reflecting upon.
Now I take you a step further than this.
This which you are seeing in others and in yourself,
this self that you find fault with, is only the idea
you have of who you are and its own conditioning.
It is not the true Self. It is only an acquired state,
the learned or constructed self.
This is where all the bad smell is coming from.
Rather than rejecting those encounters,
The wise welcome them.
(from ‘White Fire’)
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” -R. Buckminster Fuller
No one has the power
to make you unhappy or miserable.
Mainly, we do this by ourselves.
Happiness is our real nature.
Sadness comes mostly through habit
and through identification with the personal self.
We can be happy every moment
but mostly, due to habit, we choose to focus
on what makes us unhappy
and so lose or hide our natural joy.
Develop the excellent attitude of gratitude
to all of existence.
Overlook petty thoughts, worries and troubles
—the bitter and the sweet.
Instantly, you will begin feeling uplifted in your spirit
and in a short time you will begin seeing life
through brighter, wiser and more loving eyes.
‘Let go, let God,’ and remember you cannot lose what is truly yours, nor can you hold on to what is already over and done.
Beloveds, please listen:
It is not wise to compare your life
to that of others for each life stream is unique
and is the expression of pure spirit and being.
Know within your heart
that your life is tailor-made for awakening
in response to the will of the Supreme Being.
Even if great hardship comes your way,
don’t complain, judge or fall into self-pity.
Don’t waste energy like this.
Rather, use these same difficulties and circumstances
to sharpen your powers of discernment
and to intensify your drive for liberation and freedom
from all psychological conditioning and evil forces.
You are here as life itself,
flowing towards its own divine source.
Regard your life as auspicious.
Halvimal juhul koheldakse olevikuhetke vaenlasena. Kui sa vihkad seda, mida teed, kurdad ümbritseva üle, kirud toimuvat või toimunut või pead sisedialoogi, arutledes, mida peab ja mida ei tohi, süüdistades ja etteheites, vaidled sa sellega, mis on, vaidled sellega, mis on alati juba olemas. Teed Elust vaenlase ning Elu teatab: „Tahad sõda – saad sõja.“ Nii koged vaenulikuna välist tegelikkust, mis peegeldab alati tagasi sinu sisemist seisundit.
Niipea kui märkad, et sinu suhe praeguse hetkega on väärtuslik, oled Kohal. Hetkel, mil väärtalitlust märkad, hakkab see lahustuma. On inimesi, kes seda nähes kõva häälega naerma hakkavad. Nägemisega kaasneb võime valida – valida Oleviku jaatamine, Oleviku oma sõbraks muutmine.
– Eckhart Tolle