The first thing to understand about jealousy is that it has nothing to do with anyone else and everything to do with you. Remember that this is an illusion that comes from your insecurity—from the fact that you don’t believe in yourself.
I teach how to evolve in the process of transforming lust by taking advantage of relationships as school material—by understanding that a relationship is a powerful instrument of learning and assessment that allows you to see where you are in the journey. Relationship can show you how to become aware of where you are in relation to freedom, observing whether you feel free and whether you’re able to let the other be free. Freedom is a fruit of love that only manifests when you can purify your system of all points of hatred and fear, allowing yourself to slowly let go of this defense mechanism: lust. It is only possible to liberate yourself from the erotic energy of fear when you feel a deep love for life and for existence—a type of love that we call devotion, which is simply a flowering that allows you to redirect your sexual energy towards God. But this flowering happens naturally; you can’t force it to take place.
Recognize this as a chance to set the other free, including the freedom to not love you.