The temptation to engage in ego battle or withdrawal is very seductive and difficult for many to resist, which is why many twins never reach Surrender, Radiance or Harmony. Try to remember there is no room for judgment in twin soul pairings. Each soul learns much from walking its own path and choosing through its own will. Your non-attached loving thoughts will be felt by your beloved in the subconscious, keeping them strong.
Purpose of the Surrender Phase: To help each soul release the ego, develop regular communication with God and demonstrate their full trust in God to do what is best and when.